You can reinvent your life in six months

How Wendy, Carol, and I discovered that reinvention is about returning to who you were before the world told you to change.

I used to think reinvention happened after a breakdown. That you had to burn everything down, hit rock bottom, or lose it all before you could start again.

However, that was before I read Wendy Boey’s story, a woman who survived cancer, divorce, a love scam that cost her S$700,000, and finally received an autism diagnosis at 41.

That diagnosis explained her and gave language to a lifetime of masking, of trying to belong in spaces that drained her spirit, which means she was coming home to herself.

That line — coming home to yourself — has stayed with me because I see it everywhere now. I saw it in Carol Chia, one of my students from H.A.L.O. Masterclass, who had spent 20 years climbing a corporate ladder she no longer believed in.

On paper, she was successful, but inside, she was quietly breaking. Her life was a checklist of achievements that looked impressive but felt hollow. When burnout finally arrived, it whispered a kind of silence that makes you realise you’ve been performing strength instead of feeling alive.

Reinvention, I told her, starts with awareness. As Dan Koe often says, transformation is about becoming conscious of the thousand small compromises that have kept you asleep. Carol began with subtraction, not addition, mornings without meetings, evenings without screens, one act of creation a day. Within six months, she had a new rhythm.

That rhythm looked familiar because I had lived it myself. One year ago, I left my full-time job after coming out publicly as queer and gender-fluid. At the same time, my daughter was diagnosed with global developmental delay, possibly autism.

There was no backup plan or salary to fall back on, just an ache that told me I could not keep trading authenticity for approval. I built Human Algorithm from that ache, a one-person business, yes, but more than that, a container for truth. A way to make a life where I could show up for her therapy sessions and for the work that actually meant something.

Dan Koe says that reinvention is the art of awareness and aligned action, that six months of clarity, consistency, and conscious creation can change the trajectory of your life. And he’s right.

Because I have lived it, Wendy lived it, and Carol lived it. None of us started from certainty. We started from a loss and from that quiet moment when you admit the life you have built no longer fits the person you are becoming.

Reinvention is about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be, because it is a return. Six months is long enough to strip away the noise, rebuild your systems, and write a story that finally feels true.

Wendy found hers through diagnosis, Carol found hers through stillness, and I found mine through story.

So maybe you will discover yours through the courage to stop performing success and start designing peace because resilience is he grace to come home, again and again, to yourself.

See you next Sunday.